Poem: Letter from a Mother to a Daughter

Letter from a Mother to a Daughter


“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago.” Just listen, please.

Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep. When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl? When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way. Remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair, and dealing with life’s issues every day.

The day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient, or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you. And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don’t feel sad—just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you, my darling daughter.”

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  • Susie


  • Loved it

  • notasha english-jones

    Wow…how eloquently worded. I know in today’s times we are without patients but if after one reads this letter and thier heart is not touched with compassion not only for their mother but any elderly person…then something is truly wrong with that individual.

  • Erica Weegen

    Why did the author have to keep reminding the daughter what the mother had done for her daughter when she was growing up.It’s almost as if you say to the daughter you owe me all this.Comes across very bad.
    I am in a nursing home and have 2 wonderful daughters who give all the love and help I need. But never would I dream of saying I did this and that for you.They know what a mother does they are mothers themselves
    Never play the guilt game.

    • Jim

      You missed the point.

      • notbornyestereday

        You don’t know what goes through your mind as an Alzheimer’s victim. A mother will always wonder if their children learned what they were taught. And if they wod

  • Joyful17

    In response to Erica…the author isn’t playing a guilt game (as you suggest)…rather showing a daughter or son, that life has circles…we raise children and are there for them with helping hands…..so as time moves on, we too need and appreciate those same hands to help us…. as we grow older. Beautifully expressed, and much appreciated….as a Mother to her Son and Daughter..the thoughts are simply perfect.

  • jessica

    When I read this out loud to a friend I started to cry. It reminds me of me when I’m old and my daughter taking care of me and me with my mom.

  • Jill

    :,) tears of sadness and love spill down my face

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